Category: Let's talk
I let a relationship, actually a friendship w someone who babysat my daughter lapse some time ago. Did not return text message or phone call w/o voice mail.
Yesterday while my daughter and I were in the mall having fun I checked my voice mail and there's one from her, "Hi spongebob it's Rosie, want to see how you're doing see Mimi...".
They say one dislikes in others what they dislike in themselves. I feel sneaky mean, as I characterize people where I live, yet I feel sneaky mean and passive aggressive not returning this phone call. I am afraid there would be a direct confrontation or argument if I did.
The problem? I realized after awhile she rejected my dinner invitations and never asked me if I wanted to come over for tea or take a walk, but always had my # handy when she wanted to mooch something big, like our air mattress or use of our spare bedroom, but especially use of our vehicle. Hers got repo'd and no one ever explained to me why she was so entitled to a car as she lives near a bus stop which runs into a train station. She always came next door to us to use our computer for her job searches, yet she could have helped herself by taking the bus or even walking to a library to do the same thing, maybe even seeing some HELP WANTED signs along the way. Not $25 an hour jobs, mind you, but better than nothing if you can't even collect unemployment.
I doubt this call is strictly social, and while I feel sneaky mean I just am not that motivated to return it. What would you guys do?
You want to know what she wants, so return it, just say no if you don't want to provide whatever it is. Smile.
Farewell to toxic friends. You don't need a leech in your life, nobody does. If you feel like it's disrespectful not to talk to her, I say sit down in a neutral place - like a bus stop or a diner or something - and explain to her what you just explained to the entire Zone.
If not, simply don't call her back.
She left you a voicemail so the ball's in your court. All that means is you decide, you're not obligated. You don't have to answer back every voicemail, every text, stuff like that. She might have asked, but you can well say no if you want, or, in the case of people who are overly difficult just don't call her back. You're just protecting yourself. You've got more to think about than them it sounds like.